Life Coaching

Life Coaching

Life Coaching is all about self-improvement and taking control over your life. Together we will take a critical look at where you are now and where you would like to be, setting specific goals so you can bridge that gap. We will identify the root cause of your challenges and create a new paradigm and new choices. We will discover your most productive strategies, focusing on future goals and objectives, deleting any past limiting decisions and releasing any negative emotions that obstruct your personal development and growth. Coaching creates a space for you to reach inside and access your inner wisdom.

Life Coaching is not magic. It involves commitment and willingness to change. Are you ready for change in your life?…Can you imagine the benefits?…I bet you can…

Who will benefit?

If you are unsure that your issues are suitable for coaching, the best way to be sure is to have an informal chat with a life coach. However, have a look at the following statements and see if any of them apply to you…

  • I’ve had a problem or challenge that’s been around for a long time, but I’ve never managed to sort it out.
  • I have a pressing issue to resolve but don’t know where to start.
  • Things are OK for me but could be better.
  • My life seems to be all work and no play.
  • I think things would be great if only I had …a new job, I could lose weight, I had a meaningful relationship…etc.
  • I’m in a rut and feel too drained to get out of it.
  • I’ve lost direction. I feel stuck.
  • I’ve lost focus.
  • I have low self-esteem.
  • I have no control over my emotions.
  • I can’t move forward because of my past.
  • I can’t make decisions.
  • I can’t stop feeling guilty.
  • My relationships never work out.
  • I keep making the same mistakes.

Relationship Coaching

Relationship Coaching

Looking for a Fresh Start? No need to find a new partner!

It’s not about analysing your problems and negative patterns. Analysing problems makes you an expert on your problems. It doesn’t change you or the relationship.

Learn to navigate individual differences gracefully, create and maintain a sense of well-being and feel warm and respectful toward each other, even in hard times.

When a relationship has been troubled for a long time, the partners usually have accumulated painful memories that overshadow their feeling of love. When the feeling of love is obscured, they begin to view each other in a negative light that creates more unpleasant memories. This, in turn lowers the feeling level, which darkens their outlook further. This downward spiral continually lowers the level of goodwill between the partners. No wonder you would get discouraged and want to throw in the towel!

For the relationship to be “saved,” the spiral must be reversed. This is always possible. There is no such thing as a point of no return in a relationship. I believe Relationships can always get a fresh start.

The cycle is reversed when partners empty the pool of painful memories from their minds. When the painful thoughts are gone, they will be replaced by warm, positive thoughts and feelings that lay the foundation for a fresh start. Forgiveness sets this process in motion… and so much more….

Can you efford not to try?….

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Trauma Debriefing

Trauma Debriefing

Past traumas retain their emotional charge and continue their adverse effect because they have never been fully examined. Like physical pain, emotional pain actually serves a useful purpose: it tells us that there is something that we need to pay attention to and do something about. TIR is simply a method of enabling people to examine such traumas systematically and completely, so the traumatic incident no longer have the power to cause us pain and suffering. Traumatic Incident Reduction – One-on-One Is aimed specifically at addressing the painful and persistent affects of past traumatic incidents as well as themes that recur in people’s lives such as: unwanted feelings, emotions, sensations, attitudes and pains. Certified/Accredited TIR Practitioner 

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Trauma - Group Debriefing

When a group of people (family members, work-groups, teams, community etc.) experience a violent or traumatic incident, there is a great need and benefit in debriefing them as a group.

What is debriefing?

It is the process of support in the form of allowing emotional expression under controlled circumstances, rendered to people suffering from acute stress after a traumatic incident.

What is the goals of debriefing?

  • Emotional support
  • Containing of emotions
  • Providing information
  • Normalizing reactions
  • Help with integration process
  • Identification of individuals that may need further support

When, where and how to do the debriefing?

  • There is no time limit to do a trauma debriefing, but preferably it should take place about 3 days post the incident
  • The debriefing can take place at any suitable location, as long as some basic needs are provided (privacy, comfortable seating, water etc.)
  • The process can take between 1 to 3 hours – depending on the size of the group
  • The Trauma debriefer should be knowledgeable and experienced with the process of trauma and understand the possible reactions of the victims.

Loss & Grief Recovery 

Loss & Grief Recovery

Loss takes many forms. The death of someone we love, Loss of health, losing a relationship, moving away from our home and even the loss of our dreams for the future.

A loss is often followed by intense painful emotions we call Grief – the more significant the loss, the more intense the grief. And even though we know for sure that sooner or later we all will experience loss, it is one of the events in life for which we feel most unprepared.

Learning to cope is never about ‘getting over it’ but expanding your abilities and arriving at a place in which you feel able to function well again, looking into the future with hope and a sense of excitement and challenge.

I am passionate about recovery. My deepest belief is that we are inherently healthy and whole and that our basic nature is always to strive towards that happy, healthy existence. If you feel that you have forgotten how, let me help you to rediscover…

I realised that we experience grief feelings in so many areas of our lives and often the way we cope with those feelings is by pushing them aside and ignoring the pain, causing us to repeat destructive or unhelpful patterns and develop ’emotional baggage’ build-up, which has negative consequences in our lives.

While death and divorce are obvious causes of grief, many other loss experiences have been identified that can produce grief.

Loss of health,  moving,  death of a pet, loss of a significant relationship, retirement, menopause, financial changes, empty nest, loss of trust etc.

Grief Recovery  begins by recognising an individual’s ability to heal, address issues, confront challenges and take action. It involves acknowledging the loss and learning skills to find a suitable place for it, whilst regaining your vitality and finding new meaning for living.

Grief Recovery Coaching will give you the skills and tools to allow life to continue with adaptation and change. Empowering you to define and accept the new roles in your life and regain your energy so that you are able to design a ‘plan of action’ towards the future you want.

Obviously, recovering from a significant emotional loss is not an easy task. Taking the actions that lead to recovery will require your attention, open-mindedness, willingness, and courage.

I am looking forward to sharing this path with you.

Logistics

Grief Recovery Coaching Sessions take place at my consulting rooms in Johannesburg. A session is 1 – 1.5 hours long.

Logistics

Grief Recovery Coaching Sessions take place at my consulting rooms in Johannesburg. A session is 1 – 1.5 hours long.

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My Personal Story

I became a widow when I was 32. Naïve and positive, life suddenly turned upside down for me. I remember feeling lost and confused but there was not much time for feeling sorry for myself or grieving, I had to adjust quickly as my two kids (aged 7 & 3) were counting on me. I functioned on ‘auto-pilot’ most of the time, focusing on what I needed to do. To the outside world (and even close family & friends) I was coping, getting on with my life, doing fine. What was going on inside was very different. From a confident, extrovert and positive woman, always ready to try anything, I became reserved and lacked self-confidence. I worried all the time about everything. I didn’t like myself at all! About 7 years after the loss I joined a support group for young widows. For the first time I found a safe space to express what was going on inside me. For the first time everything that was bottled up inside me came out. I felt relieved. Encouraged by the women in that group, who recognised my potential way before I did, I started forming and running more support groups and later on started counselling individuals after a loss, specialising in counselling skills, training new counsellors, counselling terminally ill patients at Hospice as well as their families. Deep inside I felt that this was my calling. This is what I am supposed to do, my clients gave me the positive feedback and support I needed to further and deepen my skills and abilities. But something was missing. I knew I could create the safe space for my clients to express their grief, to provide the support and non-judgmental approach they needed to progress through the different stages of grief in their own time.

And then?… From my own experience I knew that the hard time does not end there. When I felt stronger and adjusted to living with the pain, after I grew around my grief, I felt that I didn’t need counselling any more. What I needed was help in adjusting to my life in this new reality. I needed new goals, new focus, a new set of priorities and sometimes even a new set of values. I needed new skills that I didn’t have before, because I didn’t need them. When I was training to become a Life Coach the idea started forming in my mind. This is what I needed back then! This would have kick-started my transformation much quicker and helped me to better understand the process, gain my confidence again and put me on the right path to my new reality. That would have given me HOPE. That is why I chose to specialise in Bereavement Recovery Coaching. It is about present and future, building on your resources of the past, improving on them and adjusting them to your new reality. This is my passion; this is where I want to help you.

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Other Services

Mediation

What is Mediation?

It is a process in which the parties in conflict come together to resolve disputes and negotiate mutually acceptable solutions, with the assistance of an impartial mediator facilitating the discussion and negotiations. The mediator does not make decisions. Any agreements reached are voluntarily decided by the participants.

The Objective of Mediation

Is to assist disputing parties focus on a mutual problem, talk about it, discuss possible solutions, and if they choose, agree upon a solution.

Why Mediation?

The advantages of mediation over other forms of dispute resolution are overwhelming…

Communication Mediation allows parties to fully communicate with one another in a constructive and positive environment, controlled by a neutral facilitator.

Survival of relationships Mediation assists parties to maintain and grow their existing relationship with one another; it creates a sense of self-empowerment and recognition of each other.

Time saving Mediation is a relatively quick process and gives parties a shorter time frame in which to resolve disputes.

Cost effective Mediation is a relatively inexpensive process without the on-going costs of litigation.

Confidentiality Mediation meetings are held privately and are confidential.

Flexibility Mediation meetings are conducted without formal protocol or procedures. There are wider opportunities available to discover creative solutions.

Self-satisfaction At mediation, only the parties make the decisions.

Logistics

Mediation can take place either in my consultation room or at your premises at a time convenient to all.

An average session will take about two hours but can be extended, if necessary.

The mediation sessions are charged per hour.

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Facilitation

In the past 15 years I have facilitated hundreds of interventions in the corporate and private sectors. My workshops are tailor-made around the specific needs of a team/work-group, addressing a large range of issues, some of which are listed bellow:

  • Relationship Building in work-groups, building trust and respect
  • Conflict resolution
  • Building bridges and addressing diversity
  • Women empowerment
  • Enhanced communication skills
  • Coaching conversations
  • Exploring the Vision and Values of the company
  • Facilitating brainstorming discussions in teams
  • Resilience

THE C.H.O.O.S.E. RESILIENCE PROGRAM

Resilience is all about building capacity to deal with the increasing, and often stressful, demands of today’s workplace.  It is the ability to ‘bounce back’ from adverse circumstances with new skills that enable an individual to meet and pre-empt organizational demands.  The key finding about resilience is that it’s not something we are either born with or without.  We can learn resilience; it is a set of responses we can choose.

The C.H.O.O.S.E. Resilience model is derived from grounded theory, and is highly adaptable for many different environments.

In the workplace, resilient skills empower individuals to manage stress arising from overload, meeting deadlines, dysfunctional working relationships, poor planning and organizational skills, and a myriad of other stress-inducing conditions.

The C.H.O.O.S.E. Resilience model can be tailored to suit organizational requirements. Content can be adapted for various levels of staff, and for different environments.  Pre-workshop briefings with management may be conducted to ascertain specific requirements for each group, team, or department, and the emphasis of the program will be adjusted to suit those needs.

The program is delivered in a full one-day workshop (08h30 to 16h30).

Logistics

A needs analysis to ascertain your specific requirements will be conducted prior to the intervention. Workshops will take place at a venue suitable to the needs of the client. contact me to set up a meeting.

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